No unicorn f*ckery (and other promises to myself for 2014)


Promises to myself this year:

1. No unicorn f*ckery

Choosing to step away from people and situations where I feel small

2. Letting the goddess be

Being fully authentic in my sensual side

3. Making the party

Coming out of my shell

4. Surprising myself 

Doing one unexpected or scary thing each day

5. Uncluttering

Brain, heart, physical space, body


Daily prompt: outside of the comfort zone

Today’s Daily Prompt: Tell us about a time you did a 180 — changed your views on something, reversed a decision, or acted in a way you ordinarily don’t.

Since two major themes in my life of late have been boldness and practising radical (self-) honesty, I mostly am thinking about the third part of this statement.

The image below sums it up nicely (I originally saw this on an episode of Girls and thought it was brilliant.)


Most of the time when I step outside of my comfort zone, magic does happen….or at least, whatever happens is a valuable experience, even if it ends up seeming less-than-magical.

I think the things that matter are actually the small day-to-day things, or, things that might not seem like a big deal to most.  I’m an introvert, so sometimes just starting or continuing a conversation with a stranger is a big deal for me.  Or sometimes when I have a particularly bold moment in front of friends (friends who know me as quiet), I think it surprises them.  Or having a really chatty day at work, and find something new out about someone.  Or telling someone that I like them and facing the fear of rejection.  Or going out alone.

Some more specific things:

  • When I was 20 I travelled to Europe by myself.  It was supposed to be some spiritual- independent-woman-journey.  I remember almost everyone I told looking a bit shocked, or saying something about me going alone.  Seeing that shock value on  people’s faces was half the fun: how will little quiet nice Renee manage on such a trip?  I think I wanted them to know that I am brave and independent   Really mostly what I did was drink and goof around, but hey, you could say it was a spiritual journey of sorts.
  • During a personal training session in the fall, I started to actually view myself as an exercise-type, a fitness person, which is completely the opposite of how I’ve always thought of myself.  It was strange and awesome (I wrote more about that here).
  • When my old boss was ending his Chairship (chairdom? lol), I rewrote the words to Space Oddity and we did a few silly songs for him at a party at work.  It was the first time I ever really sang on stage.  I am pretty sure we sounded mediocre at best, but in the end it was fun, and my boss really appreciated the work and creativity!  

You don’t have to jump out of a plane to challenge yourself or step outside of your normal zone.  Sometimes all it takes is a small change: a different dialogue, a directional shift, a fresh face, a new view.

How have you been bold lately?